Had one too many rides on the emotional roller coaster with your child?
You already know...
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You’re done with the daily meltdowns, the anxiety, the never knowing when your kid is going to lose it…
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When you speak, it’s like your kids put on “mom voice cancellation headphones”…
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The traditional parenting approaches aren’t working with your kid…
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And let’s be real, even the peaceful and positive parenting strategies and tools bring only temporary relief…
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You’re done hiding from the outside world what your family is really like.
It's time to...
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Take down the walls between you and your child...
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Make it safe for your kids to take off those headphones…
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Let go of parenting someone else’s way…
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Break free of the roller coaster of over-giving, snapping and then regret...
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Support your child to grow into the caring, resilient, humbly confident, and considerate person you know he is, without sacrificing your needs or the needs of the family...
- Commit and bring radical and stable change to you and your family!
WELCOME TO
The Cove
What do you get in The Cove?
Welcome to the only year-long, wrap-around support system designed especially to sink into parenting through the heart and stepping you into the confident, clear, calm, compassionate, courageous parent you know you TRULY are!
The Cove is a hybrid program. It is both group and 1:1 coaching. Why? Well, because honestly that’s the type of support that shifts things FAST and creates LASTING CHANGE when things are at their hardest with our kids. Because I’ve been there. Because I get that parents need both community and individual support to thrive. Now there is BOTH a community of like-minded parents and one on one support specifically guiding you from wherever you are on your journey to where you want to go.
In The Cove you will:
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Walk down a path towards yourself as a parent to ignite radical, authentic joy so that you can let go of faking it with your kids and bring play in a way that actually builds trust and feels good to you, too.
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Bring relentless and honest compassion, acceptance and understanding to your family, opening you to love and celebrate your kids for who they are, your family exactly as it is and YOU for who YOU are.
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Discover how to establish boundaries that foster connection and collaboration so that you can give up the stress and burden of doing the daily things and step into parenting that you’re proud of.
"I have so much gratitude for Sonali, her team and The Cove! I appreciate the sincerity in the guidance and the lightness that is brought to what can feel so overwhelming. The program is well designed and the way Sonali holds space with such compassion brings regulation, anchoring my nervous system and helping me parent from this place. The support offered here is unlike any other parenting program out there!"
- Melissa, mom of 10-year-old
"I'm a mom of a strong-willed, neurodivergent 9 year old boy. Sonali provides a nurturing space of healing and love. She is caring, insightful, knowledgeable, and truly magical. I find myself being aware of so many more things, primarily healthy boundaries, root causes to behavioral challenges, and how I support my son. My son has grown and stretched in leaps and bounds...and so have I. I recommend Sonali to anyone who is ready to do the work and experience how wondrous life can be as a parent of a strong-willed child."
-Nahline, mom of 9-year-old
Here's the Scoop!
So, how do we get you there?
Wrap-Around Personalized Support
Community Support
3 Small Group Q&As per month. Cove Connect calls with Sonali where you can bring your questions, struggles, and stuck points to gain insights, personal attention, and laser-focused coaching. This will allow you to be able to recharge and return to your family feeling confident and supported.
LIVE "Raising Your Strong-Willed Child" masterclasses. Get these before anyone else! Sit in on a live recording of a masterclass with a guest expert for "Raising Your Strong-Willed Child" , and ask them your family-specific questions.
Access to The Cove private Facebook community. This is your community of like-minded, soul-centered parents who are focused on solving the same problems you are and holding the space for your family’s transformation so that it’s built into your family.
1:1 Support
A Personalized 1:1 check in with your Cove Leader each month, so that you have personalized support and individual accountability. This is where you check in on the step you’re implementing, bring questions and get clear on any questions on the teachings.
Transformative Coaching
- The SHUAVE process: The parenting through the heart techniques that teach you HOW to communicate in a way where your child feels heard, valued and empowered. You’ll learn the impactful methods for rebuilding connective tissue that repairs broken parent-child relationships so that you feel grounded, confident, and happy in your child’s company.
- Boundary Circles: A system to understand what boundaries really are, how we can establish boundaries that SUPPORT our relationships with our kids, deepen connection and step into possibility. You’ll finally feel free to let go of guilt and hesitation over boundaries, know where you are in relationship to your boundaries and have a clear path to return to you when your boundaries have been overstepped.
- Venn Diagram of Needs: This is an in-depth understanding of what your child is REALLY asking/demanding/communicating/raging/fearful about. With this knowledge in hand, you’ll be able to be in a situation with your child and unpack the underlying needs for both your child AND you. Once you know this, you’ll learn through example after example about how to meet that need in a way that works for your child, you and others in your family.
- Receiving: A little known way of meeting our child when we notice ourselves thinking "He's ten but is acting like he's four.". This is not a tactic, but rather a needs-oriented approach to supporting our children in meeting unmet past needs. You may know about inner child work for adults. Think of this as meeting our children's inner child. This is a radical, supportive approach to restore any rupture you've had in the past with your relationship with your child.
- And more!
Learning Library
- Access to the proprietary Breakthrough Parenting Program Library. This includes 18 pre-recorded coaching sessions filled with exact coaching on the methods, strategies, and systems you need to transform your family into a calm, confident, connected, courageous, resilient team.
- Access to ALL FOUR Seasons of "Raising Your Strong-Willed Child". Over 100 conversations with renound experts in the parenting space. Conversations are between Sonali and guest experts such as Dr. Mona Delahooke, Dr. Laura Markham, Ned Johnson, Larry Cohen, Patty Wipfler, Dr. Justin Coulson and more!
What makes The Cove different is that we believe in order for authentic connection to happen, everyone's needs matter.
When you focus mainly on your child’s needs-
- You feel depleted and sometimes resentful
- Your child learns that there are no win/win situations, so they decide they always need to win
- Authentic connection and a rewarding relationship are missing
And in that rare moment where you focus on your needs-
- Despite trying, you can't shake the guilt, questioning your choice, and feeling disconnected
- You worry your child feels anxiety, abandoned, and like they're too much
- Authentic connection and a rewarding relationship are STILL missing
Here’s the thing…when you do this, it feels like either you lose or your child loses, and in both cases, your relationship with them loses.
Neither one of these approaches gives you the heart-felt connections both you and your strong-willed child crave.
You wonder “Why is my child giving me a hard time?” “What am I missing?”
What if I told you not only are they not giving you a hard time, but your child is having a hard time? AND…when you reflect on it, you realize that you, my friend, are also having a hard time.
Your child’s needs matter. Your needs matter.
In The Cove, we practice practical, real ways to support you in meeting both your needs and your child’s needs.
Yes, it’s possible for you and your family.
Yes, you can have the deeply connected relationship with your child that you crave.
And, not only is it possible, it’s what’s missing. It’s the key. Meeting needs in this way is what allows a strong-willed child to finally feel safe so that their soul can rest and they can be the caring, humbly confident, and considerate person you know they are.
So the short version? This program is not only the RESET button for your relationship with your child but also the support you need to make sure those changes stick.
What if in a year...
- You reclaim the peace, power, play and pleasure in parenting
- Through the path of parenting, you become the person you know you are
- You trust yourself, feel confidence, freedom, and CLARITY in your day to day
- You feel FREE to let go and enjoy your kids for who they are AS you are
The Cove is a special parenting community in which you will be seen, known, and appreciated. We’ve specifically created this intimate community to help bring together the most responsive parenting techniques with the most trusted parenting resource...YOU!
Here's how you'll know you're there...
- You're no longer cycling over regret as you rest your head on your pillow because you're proud of the parent you're being.
- You can finally take that regular after-dinner family walk you've always dreamed of, and on that walk you and your kids move between chatting, playing together, and this awesome quiet.
- The muscles in your neck and shoulders are more relaxed because when you say "no" to something, your child can handle that without debate, negotiation or meltdown.
- Car rides have become less stressful and you even hear your kids giggling in the back.
- Mealtimes...well, let's just say, you're serving more than eggs for dinner every night.
- You look forward to picking them up from school because you know you've got this!
- You and your child have an understanding about homework, even though it's not their favorite thing, and it works without nagging and frustration.
- It just feels EASY, NATURAL and RESTFUL to be with your kids!
Where are your people? Here they are! And check out what Cove members are saying...
"Today I feel more relaxed, empowered, and ready to be an awesome, fun, loving mom. Sonali not only brings out the best in you, but will give you straightforward advice on what you could do with certain behaviors to help you and your child through them so you are both winners."
-Suzanne, mom of 7-year-old
"Working with Sonali has been life changing for me! I have learned so much about myself while gaining clarity, confidence, and an extensive repertoire of parenting solutions. Sonali is safe, transparent, and authentic. She models the strategies that she teaches in all of her relationships. I now feel much more equipped and empowered to handle those tricky parenting moments when they arise."
-Erica, mom of 2, ages 14 and 12
"I'm a mom of a strong-willed, neurodivergent 9 year old boy. Sonali provides a nurturing space of healing and love. She is caring, insightful, knowledgeable, and truly magical. I find myself being aware of so many more things, primarily healthy boundaries, root causes to behavioral challenges, and how I support my son. My son has grown and stretched in leaps and bounds...and so have I. I recommend Sonali to anyone who is ready to do the work and experience how wondrous life can be as a parent of a strong-willed child."
-Nahline, mom of 9-year-old
I’m giving you permission to do this work AND have fun while doing it.
Check out Jennifer's story...
GET STARTED TODAY!
Okay, I need The Cove! What's the investment?
What exactly do I get in The Cove?
Personalized Coaching
- At least 3 group coaching calls per month
- A 1:1 check in with your Cove leader every month
- Live masterclass and Q&A each month with a guest expert
Community Support
Private Facebook community with video and comment coaching from Sonali and The Cove team
Learning Library
Enjoy unlimited access to an extensive library of content including ALL past seasons of Raising Your Strong-Willed Child
Want to chat with me about joining The Cove?
Schedule a call to see if it's the right fit for you and your family. I'd love to talk to you.
Let's chat"I'm truly grateful for Sonali's nurturing and compassionate support as I navigate my parenting journey. She is incredibly intuitive and has an amazing way of communicating her wisdom in a supportive, non-judgmental way. During our conversations, I find myself taking extensive notes - trying to capture her words so I can reflect on them later and put ideas into action. I have truly seen the positive impact of our work on my relationships with my children, and with myself. Thank you, Sonali!"
-Julie, mom of 2, ages 17 and 15
"I have so much gratitude for Sonali, her team and The Cove! I appreciate the sincerity in the guidance and the lightness that is brought to what can feel so overwhelming. The program is well designed and the way Sonali holds space with such compassion brings regulation, anchoring my nervous system and helping me parent from this place. The support offered here is unlike any other parenting program out there!"
-Nahline, mom of 10-year-old
[STARTING FEBRUARY 2023]
In February in the Cove, we are embarking on a journey toward change called the breakthrough parenting program.
The Cove is a year long commitment because we've specifically designed this program to not only be the RESET button for your relationship with your child but also the support you need to make sure those changes stick.
We’ve walked the path you’re walking and we’ll be guiding you every step of the way towards learning a new way of being with your kids and with yourself. Rather than focusing on doing all of the tips and tricks, you’ll dive into being the mom you want to be by learning how to operate from a heart centered place, establish boundaries of safety and inclusion, and create an atmosphere of collaboration and teamwork within your family.
The Breakthrough Parenting Program is the foundational piece that we recommend all our members start with. Beginning in February, we're ggoing through BPP LIVE as a group together. You'll learn the foundational concepts Sonali teaches that will transform your relationship with your child, including Boundary Circles, The SHUAVE process, The Venn Diagram of Needs, Receiving and more.
With each video, you receive both a teaching and a follow-up recording where other parentis with similar challenges ask Sonali their follow-up questions. This is one of the most powerful parts of the program because they bring up all of the “what about this?” questions that can’t be entirely addressed in pre-recorded courses. (Spoiler: Sonali thrives on the "what about" questions because it's where we get to what's at the core for you and your family personally).
This transforms the teachings from being static and theoretical to dynamic and applicable. And you get to also bring your follow-up "what about...'s and "what if"s to a Cove Connect call with Sonali, or a 1:1 call with your Cove leader.
You get what you need for you and your kids.
We hope you can join us; we can’t wait for you to meet the person you have become one year from now! ❤️
Check out what Liz had to say about her experience in The Cove
"This is what the Cove means to me: Acceptance, love and care for the very CORE of me - my heart, mind, emotions and the actions that stem from these places. As a parent, I'm immensely grateful for the impact Sonali and her team have had on me. I keep finding the "science" (to prove what Sonali does) in books I read about life & relationships, but Sonali brings my HEART out... The parts of me I've left behind... The parts that I'm desperate to utilize, but keep being triggered against in normal life. There's nothing "normal" about Sonali and the Cove. She is exquisite, timeless, intuitive, caring and insightful to the max. And her Cove leaders are of the same caliber.
I came to the Cove with lots of hurts and triggers and mostly wanted 2 things: to not be triggered so much in parenting and to be mentally and emotionally healthy enough to take on homeschooling for my son.
Today, my son and I communicate and show/share emotions, patience & tenderness where there was very little in the past without yelling and tantrums (on both our parts). I recognize my triggers and have compassion on myself to get my needs met. And I'm homeschooling! And it's really fun! I love this boy and I could just explode in joy at how different my parenting life feels today. Nothing is ever perfect and that's become just WONDERFUL."
Well, BUT... what about?...what if?
Answers to your questions before you ask them...
I've read all the parenting books, listened to podcasts, and taken other courses, but none of it has worked. What makes The Cove different?
I feel like what's going on in my home is different. What if it doesn’t work for my family?
I've gotten overwhelmed in other parenting courses because I couldn't do all the things. Will that happen here?
I’m worried that my partner might not be invested in making these changes with me. Can this program still work if I’m going it alone?
I am in an unusual timezone and/or have an unusual schedule. What times are Cove Connect calls?
What if I can't make the Live Q&A calls?
The Cove may not be for you if...
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You are looking for quick fixes so you don't have to think about parenting anymore. Yes, many Cove members experience relief in the first week or month. And, we're not talking about never having a bump with your child. We're talking about buidling the confidence and security that you know you can handle whatever bump comes your way and enjoy parenting.
- You give up when something doesn't work with your child the first time. We believe parenting is a process. It's iterative. You'll learn as you practice what your child needs, what you need, and what your relationship needs together. In fact, how we handle those moments when something goes differently than planned with your child model important lessons for our kids about resiliance.
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You only want to know what to do to make your child stop. In The Cove, we believe underlying needs drive behavior. So, how we handle situations with our kids are not cookie-cutter. A child may have challenges with brushing teeth because of sensory sensitivity or because of fears of being alone at night. There are two different needs underneath what can look like the same brushing challenge. Understanding your child's need will influence the heart-centered solution we create together. This is why play-based appraoches to manage behavior only work temporarily. We address the underlying need to create stable, solid connection.
NICE TO MEET YOU
Hi! I'm Sonali
I was that kid. Now I have three of those kids.
I combine heart-centered and empowering parenting approaches to bring a parent’s awareness to the needs at the root of the unrest they feel. My passion is supporting parents to return to trust, connection, confidence, and delight in themselves and their relationship with their children.
I find children wise, attuned and present. I find parents wise, attuned and present. I'm here to support you in seeing this, too.
I live in Bangkok. I'm originally from the US and am of Indian origin. I have albinism, which means I have no pigment in my skin, hair, or eyes. What that makes me is clear. I see people in ways they don’t see themselves.
AND…I'm proof that it’s possible to repair just about any break in relationship with your child.
And just in case you want to hear from more parents of strong-willed kids...
"I have so much gratitude for Sonali, her team and The Cove! I appreciate the sincerity in the guidance and the lightness that is brought to what can feel so overwhelming. The program is well designed and the way Sonali holds space with such compassion brings regulation, anchoring my nervous system and helping me parent from this place. The support offered here is unlike any other parenting program out there!"
- Melissa, mom of 10-year-old
"I can’t say enough about the importance of Sonali’s work with parents -- gosh, every parent needs a course with her! I wish I had had the knowledge I have gained about parenting highly sensitive, high-energy kids when my kids were younger. It is life-changing for the parent and child."
-Nancy, mom of 2, ages 20 and 17
"Sonali’s view on play has been profoundly transformative. I have always made sure to take time to play with my son each day, but as a single mom, I often have a brain full of 10 million things I also have to do when I’m done playing. What I’ve learned from Sonali is that I’ve been giving my son attention, but not the connection he craves. Since I’m not able to take things off my to-do list, what I’ve learned from Sonali is to bring the intention of connection into all the moments of parenthood, and instead of checking “Play” off my to-do list, I’m BEING more playful. My son is responding beautifully! He’s soaking it up, and I am having way more fun in parenting again."
-Nicole, mom of 5-year-old
"What I love about the Cove is the safety and acceptance, like a warm fuzzy blanket. No matter what issue I bring, I'm always seen as a good and loving mom who is doing her best. I love Sonali's approach to coaching - offering a different point of view, coming up with small doable steps and always checking in if that resonates with me. We keep tweaking together, sometimes for weeks (or months). I'm slowly shifting our family towards getting everyone's needs met, including my own. Sometimes it's a joy, some days I struggle and I can always come and rest in the Cove no matter what."
-Eva, mom of 2, ages 6 and 4
"I started working with Sonali when I was feeling stuck in the impacts of my anger and resentfulness towards my own parents. That was just the starting point in our work. My relationships with my former husband, friends and son as well as life experiences all came up in ways that I felt safe to see, feel, speak to, and navigate. We even worked on some work situations. Amidst that processing, Sonali taught me clear and relevant concepts and skills that have become integral to how I manage my own empathic and sensitive self, balance my needs as well as others’ needs, navigate conflict, see what’s at the root of my students’ behavior patterns, and guide myself and others to living in integrity - both in the sense of wholeness and in the sense of alignment with one’s own truth."
-Chrissie
"Not a program or a system or a script, but rather Sonali in her gentle wisdom will uncover the direction already inside you, all the while giving you back your confidence and purpose."
-Catherine, mom 2. ages 17 and 8
"Sonali's gift as a group facilitator is taking a question or challenge, whether it be about a toddler or a teenager, and approaching the scenario in a way that makes it relatable to all our situations and families. For me, the insight, concepts, and framework Sonali offers parents as tools are universal, which creates a powerful, impactful group experience."
- Christina, mom of 12- year-old
"I found Sonali because I noticed my older daughter was highly sensitive and strong willed and I knew I needed guidance as a parent.
I highly recommend working with Sonali at any capacity that you can, whether it is through her personal 6-month sessions or through The Cove.
Her insightful teachings helped me understand and validate my daughter’s big feelings and I feel better equipped to handle difficult situations that arise.
I am so very grateful to Sonali. My relationships with my daughters have improved, and I think her teachings will help me connect with my daughters throughout their lifetime."
-Sarah, mom of 2, ages 8 and 5
"Working with Sonali is a gift. With her loving, patient guidance, I have come to realize that my parenting issues haven't been caused by my son.
Sonali has helped me understand that the things that served me well as a child (not rocking the boat with my emotions and my voice) create dysfunction in my relationship with my strong-willed child.
Sonali creates a safe, compassionate space to be vulnerable and do challenging work that is helping me heal and become emotionally whole again, and in that process, she is helping me develop a wonderfully connected, heart-centered relationship with my strong-willed child."